I am not going to tell you what to eat. If you are a lifetime dieter, you will probably already have a good idea of what a healthy intake of food looks like. Instead, we'll explore the underlying reasons for your eating patterns, understand what drives them, and help you build a more comfortable relationship with food, so the food noise can quieten.

This programme is not a diet. However, it can work alongside dieting if that is the route you want to follow — everyone is different, and some people prefer a more structured approach. That is a personal choice.

This programme will give you the tools to understand the patterns behind your eating and begin to change them, which may actually make it easier to follow a structured eating plan if that is what you choose.

Weight may change as eating patterns change, but the programme is not focused on chasing a number on the scales. The focus is on finding the reasons behind your eating patterns, so that eating becomes more natural and less stressful.

Absolutely not. One of the core principles of the programme is non-restriction. You can eat anything you want. Over time, many people discover that their body naturally guides them towards what feels right, so that eating becomes easier and food loses its voice.

Increased movement is good for everybody, but I am not going to tell you to exercise. This is a completely personal choice. I will share some tools to help motivate you to move more — but whether to follow them is entirely up to you.

The most valuable part of my programme is the one-to-one sessions. These are tailored exactly to your needs and give you the opportunity to do a deep dive into the issues that affect you personally. Using the various methods I am trained in, I will help you work through these. It can be amazing how seemingly small events can leave a negative mark on the way we feel about food.

Think about the sentence that most parents say to their children “clear your plate – think of the starving children around the world” and how that might have left you feeling unable to leave food on your plate. (How can eating leftovers help starving children??) But it shows the lasting effects of a simple phrase.

The pilot runs for six weeks, from Monday 9 November to Friday 18 December 2026. If you'd like to hear about future programmes, send an email to sue@findingyourhaven.co.uk and I'll add you to my mailing list.

If in doubt — book a call. It is free, no-obligation, and is absolutely not a sales call (I am a rubbish salesperson!). I will find out more about you and your situation so that we can decide together whether this programme is the right fit. I will be totally honest — and if you are still not sure at the end of the call, I will suggest you do not sign up.

I work full-time as an accountant, so this is not about me earning money. It is about helping people.

That is completely understandable. Most people who arrive here have tried many diets or programmes before. This programme does not promise quick fixes. Instead, it offers a different way of understanding eating patterns and how they develop. It offers a compassionate and gentle way to help you understand the patterns behind your eating and begin to change them.

I understand this concern deeply. Having spent a great deal of money myself on programmes that ultimately did not work, I know how precious those resources are — and how painful the disappointment of another failed attempt can be.

This programme is not a diet. It is an opportunity to fully explore the reasons behind your eating patterns and begin to change them. I believe I have found the answer that eluded me for many years, and I want to share that with you.

Apart from a lifetime of experience with failed diets, I have spent the last three and a half years deeply involved in studying why difficult eating patterns develop and how they can change. In 2024 and 2025 alone I completed over 300 hours of structured study, resulting in four qualifications: Havening Techniques, NLP, Hypnosis, and Brittany Watkins Weight Loss Coaching. I continue to study to further develop my skills and knowledge.

I designed this programme to help people exactly like me — people who have suffered at the hands of the dieting industry, who have failed multiple diets, and who are looking for an effective alternative.

Please have a look at my reviews from the wonderful people I have helped.

I designed this programme to help people exactly like me — who have suffered at the hands of the dieting industry, who have failed multiple diets, and are just looking for an effective alternative. In our one-to-one sessions I will take time to learn more about you specifically, so that I can offer help tailored to your situation. Everyone is different.

I have personal experience of this — and some of my own challenges around food arose from it. Please call me to discuss and we can explore whether this programme is suitable for your particular situation.

This particular programme is directed at disordered eating rather than alcohol. It might be more helpful to sign up for a course of private sessions, where I can tailor the work specifically to alcohol — the process is quite similar. Please call me to discuss if this is your situation.

The Dieting Mindset Rewrite™ is designed to help you understand and change the underlying patterns that influence your relationship with food. As you work through the programme, the aim is to reduce cravings, emotional eating and the constant food noise, while helping you reconnect with your body's natural signals — recognising when you're hungry, when you're comfortably full, and what your body needs.

By exploring what's driving these patterns, you may also discover a greater sense of calm and freedom in other areas of your life.

Having seen the remarkable effects of the techniques I use, I am very confident that I can help many people change their relationship with food. I have worked very successfully with individuals seeking this kind of help.

My passion is to help as many people as possible escape the dieting roller coaster — and that is exactly where the idea for a group programme came from.

Please take a look at my reviews from my clients.

It is natural to have this concern. With the support of the group and my individual attention, I will do my best to ensure that everyone has the best possible chance to succeed.

Firstly — be honest. Brutally honest. Unless I know exactly what is going on inside your mind, I will not be able to give my best advice. Trust me — I have probably been there before you.

Every DMR member will be treated with compassion, empathy, and in the strictest confidence.

You will receive 6 one-hour group sessions, 6 one-hour private one-to-one sessions, and access to a private WhatsApp group that I will monitor and contribute to when needed.

Honesty is the biggest priority. Beyond that: show up to all sessions, complete the exercises between sessions, and let me know if you have any concerns during the programme.

You will not be following a strict diet — you will be eating normal foods, so your family may not even notice a difference, although you might find you naturally want smaller portions.

If you are responsible for cooking, you can make very gradual changes over time if you feel that is right for your family. If someone else cooks, try to be present when they are serving the food so that you can control how much goes on your plate.